Relations between children and parents are a very serious ans widely spread problem. Nowadays there are a lot of unsuccessful families. In these families children become masters of their own life and fate. Some children spend a lot of time in bad companies. They begin to smoke, to drink alcohol and to take drugs. Parents don't know about it. Some teenagers begin to miss lessons at school. The reasons may be different ...
I'll be very grateful if you write your thoughts about main families problems .. what causes them in your opinion? and what can both children and parents do to avoid them?
I'll be very grateful if you write your thoughts about main families problems .. what causes them in your opinion? and what can both children and parents do to avoid them?
I think that problems in relations between children and parents apears because they don't understand each other or even don't try to do it. It very important problem, espacially nowadays. Perents don't hear teenagers. Often they simply shout at their children and such behavior only exacerbates the problem. But I understand that sometimes adolescents behave so that parents don't know what they must do. I think that both children and parant blame in such situations...
ВідповістиВидалитиSometimes teenagers develop interests and values different from those of their parents. That sets a conflict between two generations, which leads to a gap in mutual understanding. Traditional disagreements are: the time to come home at night, doing work about the house and the friends to spend time with.
ВідповістиВидалитиBut it's not the way out. Parents should help their children and find the right approach to them so as to make everything clear. Being able to view the problems more rationally, they should try to do their best to resolve them. We need to learn to talk our problems over in our family. If we are able to do it, everything will be all right.
ВідповістиВидалитиLuyba, in general I agree with you. But sometimes only discussion of the problem can't resolve the conflict. Сhildren refuse to listen to their parents. And it's very difficult to explain something to someone who doesn't want to understand. However adults play the main role in the problem-solving. Teenagers can't do it as well as their parants because, as a rule, they don't feel guilty. Conversely adolescents think that parants blame all the problems and if they stopped to go into their private life everything would be alright. All young people must understand that parants never give us bad advice! They love us and try to help. They do everything posible to make us happy)))
ВідповістиВидалитиAlexandra, I agree fully with you. There is another problem. Nowadays, almost all mothers and fathers worry that their children spend a lot of time on the Internet. However, parents don`t understand that it`s their lifestyle and try to make their offspring live without computers.In my opinion, parents should not limit the time for their children to use computers. First of all, teenagers can communicate with their friends who live far away using e-mail. Secondly, they have a good possibility to develop computer skills.In conclusion, parents should be more understanding to their children. They should help them surfing on the Internet, show interesting sites and never limit the time to use computers. It will make parents closer to their children))
ВідповістиВидалитиOh, using the Internet can make parents closer to their children!? I don't think so... Nowadays teenagers spend more time at the computer that outdoors. And maybe sometimes only parents's interdictions of using the Internet make children to go for a walk. But if your parents want you to leave a place at the computer there are two explanations: or they want you to do something that will detract you, or they want to use the Internet themself))))) Personaly I miss times when my family spend a lot of time outdoors. We often went for a walk together, spend time at the picnics))) And it really made us closer. Now we sit at the computer in social networks. Yes, it's very important but it only alienates us from each other. I think that if parent let their children use the Internet without any control in future their children won't be able to communicate with people in real life.
ВідповістиВидалитиIn our time people forgot really. that means to spend time with the children. Tenderness, warm-heartedness and respect must always be present in the family to make it friendly. A lot of activities help members of the family to be on friendly terms: discussing all the family plans together, going on trips hikes together, visiting museums, theaters, exhibitions and exchanging opinions about them, sharing the same joys and sorrows, and the most important to consult by the children.
ВідповістиВидалитиVery bad, that people do not do all of it..)
I do thank you girls for your comments. I agree Alexandra with your idea that parents are more responsible for solving family conflicts than their children. But what i am really not sure about is that parents "never give us bad advice". Parents are just human beings, they CAN be wrong as well as teachers )))) or other growns-ups. But on the other hand it's important to remember that adults have more chances to be right because of their life experience ... though i believe that both parents and children must not only listen to each other but what is even more important to be able to hear one another.
ВідповістиВидалитиI am grateful to you Lyuba for starting such important topic as using the Internet ... you are absolutely right that the Internet is the greatest invention of the humanity ... but my advice is never to forget what is too much is harmful ... the Internet must be a tool to get information not "a living place".